2 Steps forward...1 Step back

Parenting breakthrough:

I have discovered this new way to have the girls help around the house, to not fight as much, and only getting toys when they EARN it.......basically we are still conquering discipline. This technique seems to be slam dunk so far!?! My idea was very basic. First I got 2 medium sized candle holders and put each of the girls name on them. Got a basket and filled it full of gum balls, then put it between them. Every time they are good, polite, snuggly, or help around the house they earn a gumball. Every time they are naughty, fight, bite, pinch, throw tantrums, whine when they don't get their way, or talk back......I take one out. At one point Jaycee shoved Sissy and I dumped ALL of her gumballs into Sicilee's. Needless to say, she hasn't done it since. If at the end of every month they have at least 30, then we go shopping for a toy or treat.

I have seen the most improvement in my Jaycers. When she gets bored she just says "okay mom, what can I do to earn a gumball?" I get super good helpers with EVERYTHING around the house now....dishes, laundary, cleaning rooms, washing mirrors, toy room organized, and a lot less snapping back at mom with sassy ATTITUDE. Whew, life just got a little easier at the Watts home(just in time to be a widowed baseball wife).

Sissy gets bored with it every once in a while and will say "Naah, I don't want a gumball today Jayc will you do the dishes?" Mostly she doesn't want to break a nail (seriously) doing anything too hard.


1 STEP BACK:

We actually brought a little souvenier back from Hawaii......and lost it at 6 weeks recently and I was able to pass it on my own. After the first miscarriage I never could understand why women kept this such a secret, this is typically one of the hardest times for a woman and for some reason it is not shared. After the latest second one I figured out that for me it makes me feel like a failure as a "woman". With that said..let me explain. First of all it wasn't near as traumatizing as the first mostly because I wasn't so far along, but my first question for the doc was "WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME" she said "absolutely nothing" I didn't think that after 3 kids that my uterus could just ly down and quit! Statistic wise....1 in 5 pregnancies fail. Sometimes women don't even know because it seems like a bad monthly cycle. She clearly explained that I am just on a streak of bad luck to have it happen 2x in a row......knowinig that I had 3 healthy and normal pregnancies. STREAK OF BAD LUCK....wait haven't I blogged many times and warned my husband when we got married that I am bad luck?? So I have accepted the bad luck thing and moving on. It is a bump in the road and I have 3 beautiful babies to tend to so I have chosen to not be so down about it.

I do feel there is one more to complete our family......I guess it is just going to be a trial for us and I will learn patience on getting one more here. I told my husband that they were both probably boys and my body doesn't know how to carry them:) ...........................(a little inside humor!)